You meet someone new – potential dating material. They’re good looking, appear to be independent, single, and confident. You’re laying out your future together in your head. What you don’t see is the invisible baggage he or she is hiding from you to make a good, first impression. Get a cell phone background check and weed out the fluff from your dating life.
That’s one of the big problems with dating, by the way. You go out a few times and it doesn’t take long to get hooked. If there’s any chemistry at all, you have a few things in common, and your conversations are light and easy, you start to invest yourself in the possibility of a new long-term relationship.
Only later, after you’ve put some of your relationship nest-egg into this new person do you find out that they come with a criminal record, a child (or two, or three) – maybe even a wife they neglected to tell you about.
That’s where the pain comes in. That’s when it’s harder to separate yourself. Your brain – constantly analyzing, planning and working away – has already taken how you FEEL about a person and decided you should be together. It forces you to compromise and settle for some issues that you might not have had to deal with if you knew those things going into the relationship.
